Dr. R.B. Thohe Pou
Jealousy kills yourself more than the others – learn how to be contented with whatever you have and possess. Cain killed Abel due to jealousy only. (Bible). Misconception and wrong assumption about yourself and others are another serious problem leading to unsatisfactory and creating problem within you and lost inner peace.
Is jealousy comes naturally or comes out of one own failure or comes out of inferiority complex or comes out of greediness? Can jealousy be removed when one becomes more successful and wealthier? Is jealousy has to do with one own success or richness? One of the important causes of jealousy is due to discontentment of what one has – this may be physical, mental, spiritual and monetary aspects. When one is content with what one has, there is nothing to be jealous of other’s possession or position or status.
Erroneous self assessment and assumption creates inner problem within you, and one of the results can be jealousy or inferiority complex or superiority complex. Inner peace would come only when you become contented by understanding that EVERY human being is the same whether he is rich or poor. Otherwise, you will start to jealous, envy other’s wisdom, knowledge, beauty, smartness, properties etc. Inferiority complex develops due to wrong assumption, self low esteemed, discontentment etc. Inferiority complex also leads to jealousy, anger, unhappiness, lost of inner peace and become unworthy of living.
Try to be content with what you have – whether it’s money, knowledge, your looks, with everything that you possess. Sometimes jealousy make you inferiority complex and make you angry towards other people. Sometimes you may jealous someone and develop bitterness in your heart, but it’s going to disturb and bring distraction to yourself only – the other person may not feel anything as he may be content with whatever he has or what he is. Generally, people who are discontent with what they have jealous and envy others, otherwise there is nothing to be jealous of others or proud of what one possess.
Remember that not one is content with whatever he has without the blessing of God. It is no the knowledge or properties or richness that a person has – it’s the blessing of God that one becomes content with whatever he has, and it is only the right perception that makes oneself contented or unsatisfied. One should also know and understand that contentment is different from complacency. Those people who are content with whatever they have develop inner peace, more progressive in their work and successful than those who are complacent in their life. Those who are content with their lives also live a longer life than others who are jealous of others and find no inner peace in their heart.
Jealousy is one of the serious problems in life. You may try to disturb, distract and pull down other people by hurting others with your speeches and action. But you know – it kills only yourself first. The more you jealous other, the more you will try to hurt him and will try to bring down him. However, many a times, the other person live happily without noticing all your hatred and jealousy. Jealousy and hatred are the curses and not a blessing for you as it brings oneself down first many times before he brings down the others.
Try to free yourself from jealousy and hatred through prayer and forgiveness, and freeing oneself from hatred and jealousy would definitely enhance your productivity in life. Generally, all those people whom you are jealous or hate are contented with their life. In fact, you are jealous of him or her just because of they are contented with what they have and you are unhappy with what you have.
Source: Morung Express 28 Dec.2017