Jealousy kills yourself more than the others

Dr. R.B. Thohe Pou

Jealousy kills yourself more than the others – learn how to be contented with whatever you have and possess. Cain killed Abel due to jealousy only. (Bible). Misconception and wrong assumption about yourself and others are another serious problem leading to unsatisfactory and creating problem within you and lost inner peace.

Is jealousy comes naturally or comes out of one own failure or comes out of inferiority complex or comes out of greediness? Can jealousy be removed when one becomes more successful and wealthier? Is jealousy has to do with one own success or richness? One of the important causes of jealousy is due to discontentment of what one has – this may be physical, mental, spiritual and monetary aspects. When one is content with what one has, there is nothing to be jealous of other’s possession or position or status.

Erroneous self assessment and assumption creates inner problem within you, and one of the results can be jealousy or inferiority complex or superiority complex. Inner peace would come only when you become contented by understanding that EVERY human being is the same whether he is rich or poor. Otherwise, you will start to jealous, envy other’s wisdom, knowledge, beauty, smartness, properties etc. Inferiority complex develops due to wrong assumption, self low esteemed, discontentment etc. Inferiority complex also leads to jealousy, anger, unhappiness, lost of inner peace and become unworthy of living.

Try to be content with what you have – whether it’s money, knowledge, your looks, with everything that you possess. Sometimes jealousy make you inferiority complex and make you angry towards other people. Sometimes you may jealous someone and develop bitterness in your heart, but it’s going to disturb and bring distraction to yourself only – the other person may not feel anything as he may be content with whatever he has or what he is. Generally, people who are discontent with what they have jealous and envy others, otherwise there is nothing to be jealous of others or proud of what one possess.

Remember that not one is content with whatever he has without the blessing of God. It is no the knowledge or properties or richness that a person has – it’s the blessing of God that one becomes content with whatever he has, and it is only the right perception that makes oneself contented or unsatisfied. One should also know and understand that contentment is different from complacency. Those people who are content with whatever they have develop inner peace, more progressive in their work and successful than those who are complacent in their life. Those who are content with their lives also live a longer life than others who are jealous of others and find no inner peace in their heart.

Jealousy is one of the serious problems in life. You may try to disturb, distract and pull down other people by hurting others with your speeches and action. But you know – it kills only yourself first. The more you jealous other, the more you will try to hurt him and will try to bring down him. However, many a times, the other person live happily without noticing all your hatred and jealousy. Jealousy and hatred are the curses and not a blessing for you as it brings oneself down first many times before he brings down the others.

Try to free yourself from jealousy and hatred through prayer and forgiveness, and freeing oneself from hatred and jealousy would definitely enhance your productivity in life. Generally, all those people whom you are jealous or hate are contented with their life. In fact, you are jealous of him or her just because of they are contented with what they have and you are unhappy with what you have.

Source: Morung Express 28 Dec.2017

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Will the Naga leaders come out from the swamp of Indian election and fight for Nagas’ rights to self-determination?

Hopefully, the Naga leaders will soon realize their own mistakes and if they do not realize their own mistakes and do not have the future visions through this EXPERIMENTAL WORK in Indian election. They will soon reap what they have sown.

Many of our leaders talks about the Nagas’ rights to self-determination but practically they are in the swamp of Indian politics. Let the common Nagas involve in Indian election and politics.

However, the Nagas leaders should avoid as far as possible from Indian politics and election, because this politics bring only more divisions, hatred, misunderstanding, threat of life and more importantly losing the visions and zeal to fight for Nagas’ rights to self-determination.

The Nagas leaders involving in Indian election with the Nagas mass to test the oneness of the Nagas have miserably failed today. The Naga mass do not failed their leaders but their leaders have miserably failed to embrace and help to bring together the Nagas for not implementing their rules and resolutions equally and uniformly in all the Naga inhabited areas or atleast in all the constituencies.

Nagas have a huge population and there will be obviously many capable MP candidates. Every Naga candidate is capable in one way or other ways, and you cannot ignore one or select the other one. However, it is possible to select or nominate one candidate only if the there is mutual understanding among the aspiring candidates.

And firstly, this mutual understanding among the candidates will come only when there is enough interaction among the leaders with the aspiring candidates in well advance. Secondly, there will be no opponent candidates, and even if there is opponent contender, he or she will be the loser.

However, this is really no happening with the Naga leaders who are nominating their candidate. In the name of Naga leaders, they will nominate someone, but if the public do not like and will no vote for him or her, it will bring more disgrace to their leadership, and also the unity of the Naga people will be questionable by the GOI and also by non-Nagas. For example, Kim Gangte and Thangso Baite won in last and previous MP election, while the Nagas are fighting among themselves.

If the Nagas leaders’ nominated candidate lost, the best excuse can be, ‘it is only a politics’ and wash their hands. We may be able to give lots of excuses and wash our hands, but you cannot give excuses to EVERYONE and wash others heart what is already planted in their heart by you.

My suggestion is:
Instead of the Naga leaders strongly involve in Indian dirty politics, let every candidate make a vow through writing to work for the Nagas before filling their nomination, and whoever win the election work for the Nagas. Sometime leaders do not need to run here and there to do the work, but only right command and right approach from sitting on the chair can be done the right work.

(c) Dr. Thohe Pou

Trusting Social Networking Friends

Today social networking has become a real life for many people. In olden days, reading book in leisure time is one of the habits for many people but today spending their leisure time in social networking sites have become their habits. For many people Facebook has become their real book. Social networking has many positive and negative aspects – there is individual freedom of expression – there is also freedom of criticism and allegation, which affect the Govt., religion and the society. Today some of the countries have banned some social networking sites due to some negative aspects. In social networking sites, you can create many fake accounts as many as you want and you come to meet many people with fake name, profile picture, location, occupation and many others wrong information.

Why you should not trust your social networking friends? 

Facebook Friends with their profile pictures

In Facebook, you will meet your own father, son, daughter, wife as a stranger. A graduating college student will act and talk like a senior Professor in the University or veteran politician, a poor boy will act like a Millioner, a married man or woman will act like bachelor. Some years back, the quarrelsome husband and wife came to meet online with their fake accounts. They started to meet online and chat almost every day. Husband used to be in the office and wife used to be at home and meet online with their fake account. After dating online for almost six months, they fell in love deeply.

One day, they decided to date in real life and decided to meet in a restaurant. They have also informed to each other about the dresses to wear on that day so that they can easily recognize each other. Both of them were excited and they came to restaurant for their first date in real life. When both of them reached the restaurant, they were shocked to see each other. Seeing his wife, husband started to shout at her.  Then his wife also started to yell at him. Both of them had a big fight on that day and they were divorced after a week.

Many incidents have happened in social sites and in chat rooms in the past but the similar incidents keep happening again and again as the new users keep joining every day. Today, Facebook is becoming very popular across the globe – the less developed regions like North East India is becoming very popular as they would be able to access through their mobile phone. Another real incident happened in north east India – a foreigner lady came to meet a pretentious rich man from Assam. They fall in love through chatting in social site, later she came to Assam to marry him. However, after she came to know the poor living condition of her boy friend, she left him. It is not advisable to trust and fall in love with the stranger in social networking site. In addition to above incidents, there are many fraud lotteries and jobs happening almost every day and one need to be more cautious this day.

How can you trust a stranger in social site?

Many gullible people trust their friends in Facebook. But how can you trust someone when you don’t know him or her personally? It is difficult to trust a stranger online. But when they become acquaintance with each other through chatting or discussing in public forum, it may be possible to trust other people. It is easier to trust someone when we have similar interest, ideas and principles. When a young boy or girl is desperately looking for a friend, it will be more convincing to trust someone online but looking for a friend out of desperation is very risky in life. No all the friends are trustable but there are also many trustable friends in social networking sites.

Many of you may not believe me but I have some trusted friends in Facebook. I have never met or seen in real life but one of my friends in Facebook from Nagaland asked me to book flight tickets and I have booked for him. I never doubt about him and he deposited the same amount in my Bank account within a week. Naga Educational Trust is another good example – we have not met or seen each other in real life, but we came to know each other through Facebook and we have formed the Board of Trustees of “Naga Educational Trust”. When we are mature enough to understand other and have similar interest and principle, it becomes easier to trust someone. We may have many good friends in Facebook, but we cannot easily trust everyone like someone within our friends circle in real life.

In conclusion,

I would suggest considering the following attributes to trust someone online i). One should be able to understand and read the mind of the strangers or acquaintance friends. ii) Trusting someone you have never seen or met him or her in real life is fully depending on mutual understanding and trust. iii). It is therefore, advisable to trust someone only when you know someone thoroughly.

@Dr.  Thohe Pou

Hate no your Virtual World Friends!

In this virtual world, you will come to meet your own father, mother, lover, best friend as stranger.  But this is how the virtual world is. You can’t trust everyone in virtual world but you can also trust your social networking friends more than your real world friends; some are more helpful than your real world friends.  As you continue to live longer in social networking like Facebook, you will come to notice many types of people around you.

Some people would come to visit and comment in some groups only once in a month or two with some intentions or even without intention. However, when they come, they would come like a flood and destroy the peaceful environment and leave other members speechless.  Sometime, they may be right but they are no always right.  I am sorry to say this but it seems some of those people have some hypertension in their life. Life is beautiful and there is no any reason to have hypertension or hate someone due to trivial issue and misunderstanding.

Hating someone is one of the worst thing in life to have and not one should hate anyone with or without reason. Some time, we may hate someone but the other person may never notice or feel in their in their heart. Therefore, I dont find any reason to hate someone in particular. Hating other person is one of the greatest loss in one’s life. Sometime, you may have misunderstanding with your friends and loved ones but it is only a natural phenomenon.When someone come like a flood in any group, do not loss your heart or take it otherwise. Sometime, I may be also very aggressive on some issues but it does not means, I have grudge on those people with whom I am discussing. There are some people who have very sharp memory to keep in their mind and they will recalls even those trivial issue also (never forgive and forget easily). But there are also some people who do not have good memory and they wont keep any trivial issue and misunderstanding with them (forgive and forget easily).

You may come like a flood but or Tsunami but many people will always understand you and me. Never take any misunderstanding in virtual world to your heart and develop hypertension and start hating other people. Your life is beautiful and it is not worth to hate someone you don’t like it in virtual world. Those who think that life is beautiful then their grudge and hatred should not hurt themselves. If you hate or have grudge on other people, you cannot work, eat or play peacefully.

Why should you and I hate someone whom we don’t like? I don’t have any reason or it is unworthy to hate someone whom I don’t like. But I can have the reason to hate someone whom I love. Why should we waste our time, energy and peace by hating someone we don’t love? If you really don’t like some one then you should never hate them. Hope, I am not talking something quite contrary.

Keep smiling! God loves you and understand you better than anyone does!

(This thought just came spontaneously to my mind in last one hour and I have just share with you all. If I am hurting anyone through this sharing, please do not hate me because it will only your own loss; I will be no responsible)