Jealousy kills yourself more than the others

Dr. R.B. Thohe Pou

Jealousy kills yourself more than the others – learn how to be contented with whatever you have and possess. Cain killed Abel due to jealousy only. (Bible). Misconception and wrong assumption about yourself and others are another serious problem leading to unsatisfactory and creating problem within you and lost inner peace.

Is jealousy comes naturally or comes out of one own failure or comes out of inferiority complex or comes out of greediness? Can jealousy be removed when one becomes more successful and wealthier? Is jealousy has to do with one own success or richness? One of the important causes of jealousy is due to discontentment of what one has – this may be physical, mental, spiritual and monetary aspects. When one is content with what one has, there is nothing to be jealous of other’s possession or position or status.

Erroneous self assessment and assumption creates inner problem within you, and one of the results can be jealousy or inferiority complex or superiority complex. Inner peace would come only when you become contented by understanding that EVERY human being is the same whether he is rich or poor. Otherwise, you will start to jealous, envy other’s wisdom, knowledge, beauty, smartness, properties etc. Inferiority complex develops due to wrong assumption, self low esteemed, discontentment etc. Inferiority complex also leads to jealousy, anger, unhappiness, lost of inner peace and become unworthy of living.

Try to be content with what you have – whether it’s money, knowledge, your looks, with everything that you possess. Sometimes jealousy make you inferiority complex and make you angry towards other people. Sometimes you may jealous someone and develop bitterness in your heart, but it’s going to disturb and bring distraction to yourself only – the other person may not feel anything as he may be content with whatever he has or what he is. Generally, people who are discontent with what they have jealous and envy others, otherwise there is nothing to be jealous of others or proud of what one possess.

Remember that not one is content with whatever he has without the blessing of God. It is no the knowledge or properties or richness that a person has – it’s the blessing of God that one becomes content with whatever he has, and it is only the right perception that makes oneself contented or unsatisfied. One should also know and understand that contentment is different from complacency. Those people who are content with whatever they have develop inner peace, more progressive in their work and successful than those who are complacent in their life. Those who are content with their lives also live a longer life than others who are jealous of others and find no inner peace in their heart.

Jealousy is one of the serious problems in life. You may try to disturb, distract and pull down other people by hurting others with your speeches and action. But you know – it kills only yourself first. The more you jealous other, the more you will try to hurt him and will try to bring down him. However, many a times, the other person live happily without noticing all your hatred and jealousy. Jealousy and hatred are the curses and not a blessing for you as it brings oneself down first many times before he brings down the others.

Try to free yourself from jealousy and hatred through prayer and forgiveness, and freeing oneself from hatred and jealousy would definitely enhance your productivity in life. Generally, all those people whom you are jealous or hate are contented with their life. In fact, you are jealous of him or her just because of they are contented with what they have and you are unhappy with what you have.

Source: Morung Express 28 Dec.2017

Remembering my Mother

Remembering my mother on this Mother’s Day.

My mother left for her heavenly abode in 2003. But it is very fortunate for all those people who have their mother. 

It is better to say a word of *APPRECIATION* to a Mother while she is with you than writing a beautiful biography about her after she left you. 

*My Mother*

My mother’s love is indefinable by me with word

Nor describable on the paper in writing with my pen

Her selfless love and patient is incomparable with any one

My mother suffered in her whole life till her last breath

She was industrious, altruistic, understanding and caring

Her whole life was full of struggles, pains and tears

No diagnosable sickness suffered her for 24 years long

Yet she never whispers a word of pains and anger to any one

She thought not of her own pain and eased everybody’s pains

She taught her children to have holy fear to God

Great visions, wishes and hope on me to fulfill her dreams

She was happy as I cleared my NET Examination,

Hoping I will soon get a job and live a happy life

She was happy not because she wants money from me

But her concerned for me to have a secured life

She left for heavenly abode hoping to have better life

She is happy living in everlasting heavenly abode

But things were altered in this earthly abode;

Home sweet home turned into teary home,

Dwelling in same house has no more same sweetness

Sweet home became cold and like a deserted house

As I step into my house, always I call Mummy

But I will never uttered again the word “Mummy”

I wish to call again mummy as I enter my house

When I come back home or leave to other place

I will never hug and shake hand again with my mom

She will not welcomed and say again safe journey to me

I heard my mom’s sweet last voice on 8th December 2003;

Saying safe journey and come back with great succeed in life

She says no any parting word to me on her departure day

But she has two wishes in her life for me to be fulfilled

She wants me to get a white-color job in my life

She wants me to set up a family before she dies

My mom’s wishes could not fulfill before she died

My wishes also could not fulfill before she died

I wish if I could give even a single penny from my salary

She had sown the seed on me the security of life

Yet she will never see again the fruits she had sown

She will no harvest and taste again the fruits she had sown

My mom suffered from the sickness for twenty-four years

Yet she never revealed pains and suffering in her life

God’s wonderful patient and love reveals through her life

Her health problem would let her leave earlier this world

But God extended her life for another twenty-four years

If she would leave this world 24 years back

I would not experienced my mom’s love and patient

God had wonderful plan for her and took away

As a human being I may sobbed and regretted

Yet, I’m grateful to God for his plan for my mom

When I get a job and give my first fruit to God

My mom will be in jubilant in heavenly abode

Then will recall mom’s vision, dream and wishes

When I need prayer support, I asked my mom

She prayed for me as I come home or leave

But now it’s only a wish for me in real life

Mother! 

You left me happily and peacefully

But for me time has to come to live such a life

When I need something from my dad to ask

I first to go my mummy to tell my daddy

She was a good mediator too for her children

Have I ever give you any good gift on Mother’s Day

Hope you’ll understand and forgive me for whatever

When Mother’s Day comes and people celebrate

When their children bring Mother’s Day gifts

When others sing songs for their mother as thanks giving

When others call their mothers by their names

With teary eyes I would only wish to have my mom

My unforgettable mother left this world

Yet I pray God may raise many good mothers in the world

Restoring past beautiful life with my mom is to enter a new life

I pray God may take me to heavenly abode to live with my mom

 (My mother left for her heavenly abode on 12-12-2003

©R.B. Thohe Pou 2004

New Year thoughts: To become a better neighbor in 2016

  1. Your status in 2016: Instead of sharing and showing off what you did and what you are in your Status update in Facebook, it would be much better to share what others did for you and for others as the other people will be benefited from that unless what you did or what you are is going to inspire or help someone. Sometime, we may need to reveal what we did for others and who we are but it may be no necessary to reveal every time unless it is demanded.
  1. Share information and knowledge: Those who come to know any information news (news article) related job opportunities, health, wealth, safety, education or anything that will be beneficial to your friends in Facebook and other social media (and neighbors in real world), should share with others unless we are too selfish and always eager to have it for ourselves.

I sincerely hope and pray that in 2016 everyone ( and readers of this thought) may start to share more information with others to help each other. Otherwise, we shall become quite selfish and learning ourselves keeping secret from others. There are abundant of information available in google world and other medias, but due to lack of time and other reasons, not one is able to have all the information or data with us. Therefore sharing information with your friends would be great help to your friends and loved ones.

Sharing information with others is always good; it also shows our inner heart: One thing I want to share with you about sharing news or information with others: As a creator and Admin. of Nagalim Times and some others… I need to and have to share some informative news and other interesting article with other people (members). And to share or doing this, I have to first read and share, and thus helped me more (myself more) than others. Because, some people may no even read or like it , but you, as you have read and shared with others, it helps you a lot. In one word: those who help others help themselves and broaden their mind.

Not only sharing informative news or article with others, we should also share our knowledge and wisdom with others. There are two advantages of sharing your knowledge and wisdom with others – it helps you to sharpen (increase) your knowledge and wisdom. And other people will be benefited learning from you. The disadvantages are – without sharing (in any form) the knowledge with others, your knowledge will gradually vanish with pace of time and other people (friends or neighbors) will never be benefited from you.

  1. Sharing worldly materials: Through our activities in social networking, many a times our virtual-world attitude and heart reveal our real-world heart. You know that there are some people who love to share their things with others. You know that there are also some people who do not want to share with others what they have. You know that there are some children do not want to share their sweet – candy with their peers. If you do not want to share any informative news or information with others in virtual world, I do not believe that you can be a good neighbor too in real world, and you have the heart to share your food and vegetables with your neighbors. Life is always a part of learning, and we learn a lots through our own experiences or from others. I hope that we start learning to share with others and experience the joy of sharing with others – may be any informative news ( or knowledge and wisdom) or any worldly materials that we have in real world.

 

By: Dr. R.B. Thohe Pou