Jealousy kills yourself more than the others

Dr. R.B. Thohe Pou

Jealousy kills yourself more than the others – learn how to be contented with whatever you have and possess. Cain killed Abel due to jealousy only. (Bible). Misconception and wrong assumption about yourself and others are another serious problem leading to unsatisfactory and creating problem within you and lost inner peace.

Is jealousy comes naturally or comes out of one own failure or comes out of inferiority complex or comes out of greediness? Can jealousy be removed when one becomes more successful and wealthier? Is jealousy has to do with one own success or richness? One of the important causes of jealousy is due to discontentment of what one has – this may be physical, mental, spiritual and monetary aspects. When one is content with what one has, there is nothing to be jealous of other’s possession or position or status.

Erroneous self assessment and assumption creates inner problem within you, and one of the results can be jealousy or inferiority complex or superiority complex. Inner peace would come only when you become contented by understanding that EVERY human being is the same whether he is rich or poor. Otherwise, you will start to jealous, envy other’s wisdom, knowledge, beauty, smartness, properties etc. Inferiority complex develops due to wrong assumption, self low esteemed, discontentment etc. Inferiority complex also leads to jealousy, anger, unhappiness, lost of inner peace and become unworthy of living.

Try to be content with what you have – whether it’s money, knowledge, your looks, with everything that you possess. Sometimes jealousy make you inferiority complex and make you angry towards other people. Sometimes you may jealous someone and develop bitterness in your heart, but it’s going to disturb and bring distraction to yourself only – the other person may not feel anything as he may be content with whatever he has or what he is. Generally, people who are discontent with what they have jealous and envy others, otherwise there is nothing to be jealous of others or proud of what one possess.

Remember that not one is content with whatever he has without the blessing of God. It is no the knowledge or properties or richness that a person has – it’s the blessing of God that one becomes content with whatever he has, and it is only the right perception that makes oneself contented or unsatisfied. One should also know and understand that contentment is different from complacency. Those people who are content with whatever they have develop inner peace, more progressive in their work and successful than those who are complacent in their life. Those who are content with their lives also live a longer life than others who are jealous of others and find no inner peace in their heart.

Jealousy is one of the serious problems in life. You may try to disturb, distract and pull down other people by hurting others with your speeches and action. But you know – it kills only yourself first. The more you jealous other, the more you will try to hurt him and will try to bring down him. However, many a times, the other person live happily without noticing all your hatred and jealousy. Jealousy and hatred are the curses and not a blessing for you as it brings oneself down first many times before he brings down the others.

Try to free yourself from jealousy and hatred through prayer and forgiveness, and freeing oneself from hatred and jealousy would definitely enhance your productivity in life. Generally, all those people whom you are jealous or hate are contented with their life. In fact, you are jealous of him or her just because of they are contented with what they have and you are unhappy with what you have.

Source: Morung Express 28 Dec.2017

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NPF President Neiphiu Rio tenders resignation letter

DIMAPUR, DECEMBER 8 (MExN): Nagaland State Member of Parliament to the Lok Sabha, Neiphiu Rio today tendered his resignation as President of the Naga People’s Front (NPF), and accused Nagaland Chief Minister, TR Zeliang of carrying out a signature campaign behind his back.
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In a letter to the Chief Minister, Rio said that he had only taken the mantle of NPF President after Zeliang “had misunderstandings and conflict” with the former Chief Minister and then NPF President Dr Shurhozelie Liezietsu.”

“I attended a meeting of Legislators at the State Banquet Hall wherein I was compelled to take up the responsibility of Interim President of the NPF. Much against my wishes, the Honorable MLA s and yourself included, pressured me to accept the president-ship even though I had clearly voiced my reluctance to be elected as interim president. However, since the whole House was unanimous that I be elected as interim president, I humbly accepted the imposed responsibility…” he added.

“Now, you have led a signature campaign to go back to Dr. Shurhozelie and remove me as the President. As stated, I took over the presidenship on the demand of the MLAs and party leaders under your leadership and your request. Therefore, if you were of the opinion that I am no longer required, then it should have been informed to me and I would have willingly resigned, as I only took up the responsibility due to the request of you and your colleagues. It was not necessary to carry out a signature campaign behind my back,” the Lok Sabha MP said.

Rio further said he would inform the Election Commission of India on his decision to step down as NPF President.

NSCN IM meets Naga leaders from Rengma Naga Hills and Karbi Anglong

11 Nov: NSCN (I-M) leaders on Friday held an “intensive consultative meeting” with gaonburas and Naga public leaders from Rengma Naga Hills and Karbi Anglong, Assam at its headquarters in Hebron, to brief them about the ongoing dialogue with Centre.

Informing this through a press note, NSCN (I-M) MIP said the meeting was led by NSCN (I-M) kilo kilonser, Hukavi Yepthomi and political commissar, ‘lt. gen.’ Ningkhan Shimray. The meeting was also attended by a host of senior GPRN leaders including steering committee members, kilonsers, deputy kilonsers, cabinet secretary, kilo secretary and staff from the GPRN secretariats.

During the meeting, the NSCN (I-M) leaders stressed on the need for active participation of the public leaders, saying it was “the need of the hour”.
The NSCN (I-M) leaders stated at the meeting that the Framework Agreement signed between NSCN (I-M) and Government of India on August 3, 2015 was the highway for complete independence of the Nagas, wherein the unique history and the legitimate rights of the Nagas had been firmly asserted and recognised to be the basis for political solution.

On their part, the public leaders acknowledged the dynamic political leadership of NSCN (I-M) in signing the Framework Agreement, even as they also strongly reiterated the urgent need for restoration of encroached land of Nagas in Assam to them in the event of a final solution to the vexed Naga political issue, the statement added.

According to the statement, the public leaders also affirmed their support to the Framework Agreement and the leadership of NSCN (I-M).
The meeting was chaired by kilo secretary, M Daniel Lotha and invocation pronounced by James Rengma (pastor). The meeting concluded with a vote of thanks by Tennyson Rengma, tatar, and benediction by by Kesenga Rengma, president of Western Rengma Baptist Association.

Gathering the tribe

_With different groups involved in the Naga peace talks process, hope of a solution grows_

– Patricia Mukhim| The Hindu|Editorial| 3rd Nov. 2017(Friday)

Perhaps one of the most talked
about issues as far as the North-
east is concerned is the Naga
struggle for sovereignty which
started a day before India’s Inde-
pendence. In the Naga mind, this
issue oscillates between nostalgia
for its unique history and the
promise of a better future without
disturbing this irreplaceable past.
The problem with reality is that it
does not allow us to romance the
past.
Myth and reality
The Naga national workers are no
longer in the prime of their lives.
The chairman of the National So-
cialist Council of Nagaland (I-M),
Isak Chisi Swu, has passed away
and Thuingaleng Muivah too is get-
ting on in years. In an article, ‘The
Presence of the Past’, Roger Cohen
says, “As we grow older the past
looms larger. The past is full of pos-
sibilities. The future may seem wan
by comparison and, for each of us,
we know where it ends. With a
bang or whimper…”
Reams have been written, sev-
eral seminars and workshops or-
ganised, and there have been daily
cogitations on the Naga peace talks
since they started in 1997. In Au-
gust 2015, when the Framework
Agreement was signed between
the Government of India and the
NSCN (I-M), expectations were
high that an “honourable settle-
ment” was in the o�ng. The prob-
lem is with the use of words which
lend themselves to several inter-
pretations depending on who the
stakeholders are. What is honour-
able for the NSCN(I-M) may not
seem honourable enough to Naga
society as a whole, with disparate
aspirations and interpretations. Be
that as it may, the Centre’s Inter-
locutor for the Naga Peace talks,
R.N. Ravi, has taken on a formid-
able task.
No other interlocutor has inter-
acted with and met so many Naga
National Political Groups (NNPGs)
and civil society groups. For the
�rst time, Mr. Ravi was able to push
the envelope and create that integ-
ral space where all voices are heard
with equal respect, sometimes at
the risk of the NSCN (I-M) calling o�
the talks, since they felt that being
signatories to the Framework
Agreement, they alone have the
right to call the shots. This fact
needs to be appreciated. And it has
to be understood that the Indian
establishment too is not an easy
customer. There is scepticism and
there are doubts whether wider
consultations would result in caco-
phony, making the task of arriving
at a solution much more di�cult.
A di�cult path
For the interlocutor it’s a tightrope
walk. The Naga people are a proud
race and have held fast to their cul-
tures, traditions and language. Yet
it cannot be denied that tribal loy-
alty often comes in the way of a col-
lective discourse for the future of
Nagaland. Perhaps one organisa-
tion that has brought together
people from all tribes is the ACAUT
(Against Corruption and Unabated
Taxation), which is seemingly in-
clusive of all tribes and a mass
movement of sorts to protest
against taxation by di�erent armed
groups and factions. So far, about
33 delegations, including the dif-
ferent tribal Hohos and recently
the six NNPGs, have had their say.
For Mr. Ravi, it is an opportunity to
further understand how the
Framework Agreement should pan
out.
But Mr. Ravi’s visit to Dimapur
last month was also seen with
some scepticism. A video clip of
the public reception given to him
drew some uncharitable com-
ments. Is the pent-up rage and frus-
tration among the youth due to the
protracted peace talks or does the
rage spring from something else?
The way forward
For the Naga people at this junc-
ture, the most pragmatic step is to
take a balanced view of the past.
Obsession with one point of view
hinders any kind of progress. With
16 major tribes, each with a sense
of nationality of its own and every
tribe having its village republics
which is a crucial part of their cul-
ture, there will be divergent ‘na-
tional’ narratives. Naga national-
ism is both a sentiment and a
movement.
Ethnic boundaries of yore which
went beyond geopolitical borders
of the present nation can be both
problematic and defy pragmatism.
Then there is the issue of the In-
dian nation state, a term that is also
problematic but which has
provided its own stability for 70
years. If one were to go by Benedict
Anderson’s “Imagined Communit-
ies”, then all the communities of
the Northeast fall in that ambit.
In an interview to the Nagaland
Post, Mr. Ravi said the ongoing
peace talks may have been initi-
ated by the NSCN (I-M) but it has
now become more inclusive. One
ray of hope as far as the Framework
Agreement is concerned is that
there appears to be a political con-
sensus and faith in the process.
This in itself is a huge step forward.
Now that the tribal Hohos and the
NNPGs have all thrown in their sup-
port, there is hope that the much-
awaited political solution will ar-
rive sooner than later.

(Patricia Mukhim is Editor, `The Shillong
Times’, and former member, National
Security Advisory Board)